What can you do to entice your man into dropping to one knee? Here are 7 tips so you can handle it.
1. Look at his point of view.
Ask yourself, “Why would he want to propose?”
2. Check that both your needs, emotional and physical, are being met.
There is not a lot of motivation for either of you to get hitched if your sex life lacks any kind of enticement!
3. Talk to him about his feelings towards marriage and validate his opinions.
However, be prepared should his views be completely different to yours. You cannot bully or bribe someone into proposing if they sincerely do not want to.
4. Check with yourself that you don’t actually want him to change.
It shows that likelihood of anyone changing is minimal.
5. Ultimatums don’t work.
Men value and see marriage as a perceived loss of freedom and don’t react positively to be forced into anything. An “ask or go” attitude is just predicting what life may be like when you are married.
6. Completely avoiding the issue and not talking about it makes him think you’re not interested.
Drop a few tactful hints without anxiety or nagging, as this only fuels the fire of the stubborn!
7. Most importantly, DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY!
Whether or not your man is ready to take the plunge is not a reflection of, or an attack on, how “loveable” or “wife-like” you are. Love him as he is, love yourself as you are and he’ll be putting a ring on it before you know it!
If he still doesn’t ask, why not ask him yourself?
How did your man propose? Or hasn’t he yet?
Responses to “6 Reasons Why He’s Still Not Proposing”
I never wanted to get married or have kids. When I found myself 6 years into a relationship the family started asking ‘when?’. So my cousin picked a random date out of a hat, after saying ‘not yet’ a few times throughout the 6 years, I told him I wanted a ring before he spent more money on another ‘boy toy’. I still wanted to travel, he wanted bricks & mortar & didn’t think I was serious when I said I didn’t want kids… so 6 years along I left. Now single, with 2 accidental ‘ticking clock’ kiddies I’m perfectly happy (except for the lack of freedom!)
My brother doesn’t believe in marriage & is in a committed forever relationship of some 15 or so years. I don’t see the point of the piece of paper really, it’s not like it’s a binding contract anymore.
Beyonce had it right; if he liked it, he would’ve put a ring on it. Men aren’t afraid to commit, not always, at least. There are SO many reasons he won’t wife you and you have to be willing to see them before you waste your best years on someone who won’t give you his best days. Personally, I fell victim to #4.