# I Don’t Care if Your Un-Vaxxed Kid Comes to My Kids School, But It’s Your Kid Who Will Die… - Link: https://stayathomemum.com.au/wellbeing/body/dont-care-un-vaxxed-kid-comes-kids-school-kid-will-die/ - Published: 2017-08-17T13:51:16+10:00 - Author: Clare Whitfield ## _I have a look at loads of the anti-vax websites and Facebook pages (the ones I can see anyway) nearly every week._ Some of them are totally off the planet, some are misinformed,�some are just plain full of bat-shit-crazy lunatics. And that’s fine. It’s good to see things from other people’s point of view once in a while, even if I don’t agree with them. What scares me though are the few that are spewing profanities and hate at anyone who�doesn’t believe every word they say. �They are the truly frightening ones. > Frightening because they are so hateful. So vocal. So loud. They are bullies who > despise anyone disagreeing with them. I am a proud Pro-Vax parent. But me telling you that “You are a bad parent because you don’t vaccinate your child” or saying “I don’t care if your un-vaxxed kid comes to my school because it’s your kid who�would die…” wouldn’t make me just as bad as they are? Would it? Yes, yes it would. ![Vaccine controversy and parental concerns about unvaccinated children at school]( https://i0.wp.com/stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/whooping-cough. jpg?resize=494%2C764&quality=89&ssl=1 "Stay at Home Mum Vaccine Debate") > And I’m not being a fence sitter here. ## **Why I am so pro-vaxx:** Why? �Well�- for me personally, I do my research. I read loads of reputable science websites, journal articles and talk to health professionals. I know that 150 years ago the chance of dying of an infectious disease before the age of five was a real possibility. I weigh up the options, get informed and then make the decision that is right for me and my family. A decision I can live with after studying the facts. [⌊I dont care if your un vaxxed kid comes to my kids school | stay at home mum⌉⌊ I dont care if your un vaxxed kid comes to my kids school | stay at home mum⌉[ And this is exactly what the Anti-Vaxxers do (apart from the science stuff… well they get it from different websites I suppose or look at it differently)… And they are making the right choice for their family. Because that’s what parents do… they try and protect their children at all cost. �And Pro-Vaxxers do need to understand that. They really aren’t so different. > The thing I’m trying to say is – Although I am Pro-Vax, I can understand where > they are coming from… I can understand them saying that injecting a foreign substance into a baby seems wrong. When you look at it from the outside in, it does seem weird. And I agree. ![Researcher with a cigarette dressed in tuxedo black and white photo](https://i0. wp.com/stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/james-bond.jpg?resize=503% 2C511&quality=89&ssl=1 "She Said Shed Done over Hours of Research") They say that only vaccine-injured children’s parents would understand how they feel… �And as a Mum of a child with Autism (not related to vaccines!), I can see that point because with Autism, unless you know what it’s like, you don’t like what it’s like. And I agree. #### **BUT…** Anti-vaxxers believe they are making the right decision not to vaccinate, and that it is their decision to make. Except for idiots like David ‘Avocado’ Wolfe (Google him – scary man). This is where things get real for me… See I do believe that living in today’s world, we have all these decisions to make regarding our family. �And decisions mean choice. And choice is a wonderful thing. �But this is where giving parents the choice to do what’s best for their children, and making the rest of the community safe, comes into conflict. > _Can parents still make a choice about vaccination when that choice may mean an > increase in the chances of life-threatening diseases coming back into the community > because of that choice?_ > _I don’t think so… But I believe in choice… So I’m stuck…_ And the vaccination debate has taken on an almost religious zest in the two camps of thinking. Creating a war between Mums wanting to protect their children at all cost. We need to listen to and address parents very real concerns. ![Child with cough at daycare seeking advice for care and prevention](https://i0. wp.com/stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/pertusses.jpg?resize=498% 2C241&quality=89&ssl=1 "Help for a Sick Child with Cough Symptoms") ## **So What Can We Do About It? Turns Out – Quite a LOT!** I think a bit of understanding and listening on BOTH camps is essential. Yelling at each other in disagreement will never get anyone anywhere. If you are pro-vax like me, talk to an anti-vaxxer – and don’t judge, just listen. Try and understand where they are coming from. It doesn’t mean you have to change your mind and vice versa… but a bit of understanding from both camps will go a long way. I think: * A better understanding of childhood diseases and how they work should start at school. * Our pre-natal classes should tell us about possible diseases our children can get, how to spot them early and get medical treatment, regardless of immunisation status. * I think that pharmaceutical�companies can never be too transparent and should answer questions about their products openly and honestly. * I also think we have to put our trust in Scientists and Professors who have studied this. �Because Science leads to measurable results and hard facts. * I’d love to see more non-funded scientific based articles and a reputable place where we can get all the information we need – the correct information – from the correct sources. I think this is great for more pro and anti-vaxxers to get real unbiased information as there is so much biased information out there. No wonder parents are confused! * I also think parents should make the decision on immunising their child with their Doctor or Paed. Not by what your friends and family are doing. * I don’t feel segregation is ever a way to fix anything – except for newborn babies who are susceptible to so many terrible diseases because they even have a chance to protect themselves with immunisation. Last of all, parents will always make the best choice for their children. �Provide them with the correct information, they will make the correct decision. > **So let’s open a discussion.** ### _How do you think we can fix the ‘Pro-Vax, Anti-Vax’ hate campaign and make it safe for everyone?_ ![author avatar](https://i0.wp.com/stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/ 12/clare_whitfield_profile.webp?quality=80&ssl=1) Clare Whitfield Chief Editor Clare Whitfield is the Editor of Stay at Home Mum and a recognised voice in practical home management for Australian families. Based in the northern suburbs of Sydney, she balances editorial leadership with life as a stay at home mum to two school age children. Her background in home economics and more than a decade of experience in recipe development, family budgeting, and household systems inform her work. [See Full Bio](https://stayathomemum.com.au/author/clare_whitfield/) [ ](https://stayathomemum.com.au/author/clare_whitfield/)