Fix Boring Sex! 10 Ways to Turn ‘Meh’ Sex Into ‘Oh Yeah Baby’!
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Michelle Gadd
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Sex it’s such a’primal act. Nothing should be more natural in life. So how do you turn boring sex into amazing sex. –
As part of the animal kingdom, it’s just something that we really were made for doing. Go forth and procreate and all that jazz.
Humans are just a few of the lucky ones though who actually have the added extras which allow us to not only enjoy sex, but females ALSO get to experience orgasm. Not only that – we get to have multiple orgasms with the right’techniques and willingness to open our minds and our….oh you get the idea. Sometimes though – this simple fact really just isn’t even a consideration. Sex, although amazing and enjoyable, sometimes turns into boring sex, the same moves, the same time, et etc,,,then to top it off just doesn’t seem to even end with one big ‘Ohhhhh’ reward at the end. Buy You can change that. Really. – A few simple steps and you will be walking around like a Cheshire Cat for the rest of the day!
Ok – so men, lets be honest. You have it pretty easy most of the time. Your climax isn’t that elusive and honestly (or so I’m told) more often than not, time is spent trying NOT to orgasm. Women, on the other hand need a little more time and encouragement. Imagine doing work for no pay, well no orgasm has a large role to play in how boring sex develops.
If you’re wanting to amp up your sex life and include the chance of yourself climaxing in the forecast for your bedroom activity read on, take notes” – you don’t want to miss a thing. Amazing earth shaking sex and never boring sex is totally within your power.
Here are’10 simple and very’achievable things to do to spice up your sex life. No more boring sex!
Boring Sex Fix 1. Dedicate a little daily ME time.
Really with a hectic daily life, the kids have been going absolutely ape shit all day, the dog has dug yet another hole in the front lawn which now resembles the surface of the moon, and this morning when you went to get dressed, your ole faithful jeans which had been screaming in protest for the least god knows who long, protested one last time and the zip that once did up and held that post baby belly in check, burst. Shit!! There is no way you can be expected to feel like a sex bomb dealing with that day in day out.
Just taking a little time even if it’s just 15 minutes to sit with no interruptions and focus on your amazing self. Give yourself a compliment go on do it! You are incredible, your body is bloody amazing even if you’re not a size 2 airbrushed model. It gets you where you want to go, it keeps you alive and your partner LOVES it every bump, lump and wrinkle, so it’s about time you followed suit yeah?!
Feeling calm and more confident will reflect in the sex you have with your partner.
Boring Sex Fix – 2. Live in the moment
Don’t over analyse every move, breath, grunt. Forget about your body issues they are only in your head. Your partner finds you super sexy you little minx, so let go, enjoy it and just have fun!!
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Boring Sex Fix – 3. Quit clock watching
Don’t put pressure on yourself to have climaxed by ‘x amount of minutes’. Who cares how long it takes! Enjoy the ride. Both of you can have so much fun in extending the amount of foreplay you have. Tease each other you know how much you want something when you’re told you can’t have it right. Foreplay not only is a fabulously fun way to pass some time but it also heightens the arousal level for both of you. Foreplay can be 10 minutes long or you could start hours before even having sex. Just remember its called, fore’play’. So make it fun! What’s more a woman can be more likely to orgasm if there has been plenty of foreplay prior to the main act. More foreplay is the quickest way to help fix boring sex.
Boring Sex Fix – 4. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate!
Now, men aren’t mind readers, and every woman enjoys different things when it comes to sex. They really won’t know how to improve the sex between you or what works best to make you climax, unless they are told or shown. Talk to your partner whether it be a mid grind subtle direction or over a coffee on a Saturday morning. Sex is often considered a little taboo to talk about in everyday moments during the’day, but why? – We all do it, why not make it even more enjoyable by discussing what you would like to do or have done during sex. What works, what doesn’t, your fantasies, everything! It helps fix boring sex, by creating a more open relaxed sex life where you are both open to change. Really, who doesn’t want to be a complete sex god/goddess in their partner’s eyes? Not a bad stigma to carry around I’d say wouldn’t you?!
Boring Sex Fix – 5. Mix it up with sex positions
Now I don’t mean getting out the Karma Sutra book out and working your way through every time you’re getting down and dirty. Experiment. There are a multitude of books and general interest pieces on the internet that guide you through different positions and let you know what to expect as far as stimulation goes. I’m sure your partner would also love trying new things. Sure some sex positions could leave you thinking hell no” – ..but, there is a good chance you may just be feeling ohhh yesss! As long as you’re not left in traction in a hospital bed from over exuberant body manipulation, you’ve got nothing to lose give it a go! More Reading on Sex Positions: – 20 Sex Positions All Couples Should Try
Boring Sex Fix’6. Role Play
We’ve all rolled our eyes at the sexy nurse idea, but there is a little credit behind this. Introducing role play into your sexual relationship can free you of your inhibitions as you are no longer wife, mum, taxi driver or cleaner you can be anyone you want. Bring up the topic with your partner, again, talk about what your fantasies are, what kind of situation really heats you up when you’re watching tv, or reading a book.
The freedom of role playing can relax you, even give you more confidence to ask for what you really want in the bedroom and this is a great way to stop a boring sex life and hit that Big O more often. More Reading: –
I can’t get no… satisfaction. A great way to find out what really floats your boat and makes you climax is masturbation. Who else can you be totally open with if not yourself right? You know what works, experiment then tell, or show your partner. With two ‘go to’ areas to ensure a woman climaxes (the clitoris and the G-Spot) demonstrate your preferred methods and just how to rattle the windows (so to speak). Win/win I’d say you get your orgasm, and your partner gets a lesson in how to duplicate that same result.
Boring Sex Fix 8. Oral sex and sex toys
Almost a guaranteed express ticket to orgasm central for a woman. This allows the man to fully focus on you. Take your time. Relax. Don’t rush through this. or think ‘yep, well that’s done now onto the main game’. This time is also a great time to whip out the sex toys for you both to use and have fun with. Vibrators can amp your experience ten fold. Men, there is no shame in a battery buzz helping along the way. Once again, it’s all about open honest communication, and the willingness to mix it up sometimes. [affiliate_catalog id=”7″ label=”Lovehoney Bestsellers for Ladies”] More Reading on Sex Toys: –
If you’re consumed with thoughts of “What’s the point in completely losing myself in sex, when I’m not going to climax anyway, he gets there way before I’m even lukewarm so I’ll just lay here and make the necessary moves and sounds. I can always self pleasure later anyway’. It takes two to tango and if you aren’t prepared to ask for what you want, and work out how to both achieve that, you can’t expect things to change.
Boring Sex Fix 10. Have fun!
Most importantly in the search for the Big O when having sex relax, smile, laugh, have fun! You may not always get there each and every time, but there is so much fun to have trying!
Are YOU ready to become best friends with the’Big Ohh and stop having Boring Sex?
Michelle Gadd
Being a single parent since her children were toddlers, Michelle has enjoyed life’s challenges, and is able to relate to other mothers and fathers of children growing up and developing through life’s stages. The laughter, heartbreak, tantrums and victories are all memories to be shared and embraced. With sheer determination or as some may prefer to call it stubbornness and with a sometimes twisted view – Michelle will always find the humorous side of life.
Michelle has a business background working in Government departments for over 20 years holding multiple Business Diploma’s and other certifications including Training and Assessing, Project Management and Volunteer Coordination amongst them. With an attitude of “�life being an adventure – start living’, she is always looking for new challenges and the chance to share knowledge and experiences with the Stay At Home Mum Community.
Mother of two teens who also makes claim to even have her sanity intact (on most days) Michelle has ventured into writing sharing her sometime sassy and wry sense of humour.
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