# 8 Tips To Survive Christmas With Your Mother-In-Law

- Link: https://stayathomemum.com.au/family/occasions/christmas/8-tips-to-survive-christmas-with-your-mother-in-law/
- Published: 2017-11-22T18:00:48+11:00
- Author: Clare Whitfield

## _Christmas is already a stressful time for most mums. _

You’re trying to balance out your big ideas and dreams for the perfect Christmas
with the realities of your ability, budget and time limitations.

Then on the big day, when you should be enjoying the wonders of the holiday season
and the joys of being a parent, your mother-in-law comes along with the singular
mission of making you feel like a failure. Yes, there’s nothing quite like the sharp
criticism of a monster mother-in-law to make you wonder just why she keeps on being
invited.

But family is family right?

Well, here are some tips anyway to help you survive her next visit this Christmas!

## **1. Make Her Feel Welcome**

If she’s coming to stay get some brownie points straight away by making her feel
really welcome in your home. Primp and prep your guest bedroom with clean fresh 
sheets, and all the home comforts you can think of. Ask your partner about her favourite
perfumes and beauty items, and maybe include a little care package for her as a ‘
home away from home’ present. After all, it’s the thought that counts.

## **2. Don’t Fight Every Battle**

Mother-in-laws are well known for their ability to criticise everything that you
do, but it’s important to remember that you don’t need to fight every battle. Of
course, you should stand up for yourself, nobody wants to be a pushover after all.
But sometimes it really is better to just bite your lip. Everyone is entitled to
their opinion, so say your piece about whatever it is and move on. Don’t let her
suck you into her world.

 

## **3. Plan Your Day, But Let Her Help**

Mums are often expected to pull the majority of the day together on Christmas, and
if your mother-in-law it there you can expect lots of criticism masquerading as 
advice. So, although it’s important to have a plan of the day, talk to her about
whether she would like to be involved. If there’s some side dish that she’s famous
for, let her make it. Don’t let her dominate the event, it’s your party after all,
but a little bit of ‘pity involvement’ might lessen the sting.

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 Clare Whitfield Chief Editor

 Clare Whitfield is the Editor of Stay at Home Mum and a recognised voice in practical
home management for Australian families. Based in the northern suburbs of Sydney,
she balances editorial leadership with life as a stay at home mum to two school 
age children. Her background in home economics and more than a decade of experience
in recipe development, family budgeting, and household systems inform her work.

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